Ending Self-Justification to Improve Communication

By James Walton, Ph.D.

The majority of couples who end up getting divorced experience a gradual drift away from each other over the course of their relationship. It usually comes on slowly and gradually through a pattern of blaming the other and self-justification for their actions. Each individual is so focused on what the other is doing wrong, that…

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Love is Blind, and for Good Reasons

By James Walton, Ph.D.

Sometimes couples get caught in a patter of criticism, hurt and shame. Criticism can be broken down into its components of judgment and demand. We judge the other as being bad or good and we demand that they be the way we want them to be. When we criticize someone for who they are rather…

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On-Line Dating

By James Walton, Ph.D.

For many singles, Valentine’s Day is that incessant reminder of happy couples with red hearts and beautiful bouquets that only adds to their feelings of aloneness. Armed with an arsenal of Internet sites that promise a lifetime of happiness, they join in droves. But, do those services really work? Of all the cultural changes that…

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